Ok ok ok…so I didn’t make it to the grocery store and I didn’t make the cabbage rolls. lol Sometimes ya just don’t feel like it. Last night was one of those nights. I would rather have cooked something simple and chilled. The baby is teething like CRAZY~ crazy being the key word…driving me and his father CRAZY. lol. He woke up about 1am ready to play. It was ADORABLE….but waking up late for work this morning….NOT so cute lolll.

This morning I’m going to take this opportunity to vent a little…about MEN. or rather DOGS. What is going on with dudes these days. It seems as though all over the place its acceptable for men to behave like dogs. All the songs on the radio are about cheating and one night stands. The media is absolutely over sexed. And the good women…what are WE supposed to do? The women that take care of our men and our families and households. That stick by our men through thick and thin. Go above and beyond. We don’t stand a chance against the excitement of cheating.

I have two friends going through similar situations and it just dumbfounds me. You give and give and give and then he’s giving to someone else…. It’s the ultimate betrayal. And it just seems so acceptable these days. And it feels like women are supposed to just shut up or ship out. Either you accept it or you leave. What about accountability? What about MORALS? What about LOVE?? So we are the ones that have to suffer and then what…they move on and find someone else to take care of them? Or we stay without our dignity or pride because WE love them? I just don’t get it at ALLL. And I guess the sick part is that women have been putting up with it for a very long time. But lately it just seems so socially accepted. We are getting desensitized. Nobody is shocked anymore.

Of course, women do it too, I understand that. But right now that’s not what I’m talking about. It just seems like a sick trend. Or maybe this is what we go through when we hit a certain age. I just don’t know. All that I know is that it seems to be EVERYWHERE. Music, Media, TV, Movies, etc. And it’s probably happening right under your own nose in your own house hold and you have no idea. I’m just mystified.

How do you have someone who loves you SO much and then totally disrespect them? How do you have such disregard for your own family? How are you willing to throw EVERYTHING away and hurt your children like that? Because either way, if the woman stays or if she leaves, the children are the ones that suffer. If a woman stays that resentment is nothing to mess around with. And you don’t think that effects your kids? And if she leaves, the children’s lives are never the same after that. That is something that seems worth it?

As a women in today’s society I feel sooooooo much pressure. We have to work 40 hrs, come home, cook , clean, take care of our families, and then try to be a sex kitten………and what if we fall short………that’s an excuse to cheat? Because  we are not taking care of OUR MEN? Who takes care of us? What about what WE need? My Sister said it “es it is yet it is what is happening, if they are bored then we are responsible, men are raised to never be held accountable from what I can see, it is so different than how we raise our daughters,the girls are supposed to be self sufficient and the men are to be taken care of”…..so true. But not only are we supposed to be self sufficient but also self LESS and take care of everyone around us.

We’re not supposed to sleep we’re supposed to be porn stars. And it’s not making love anymore, we’re expected to be creative and exciting. Sex is not enough anymore. And then wake up and do the whole thing all over again. And God forbid we’re tired. So when we fall short of being super woman…..then that gives a man every right to betray us and destroy our lives. That is what seems to be happening these days and I just think it’s absolutely disgusting. NO woman is super woman. We all fall short eventually. But it would be nice to feel secure not scared that the next day some woman is going to message you saying she was with your man, or you’ll see his texts and dirty pictures sent to some unknown number. Everyday is literally a fight for your life and it’s unfair.

OK OK enough venting. I’m really just dumbfounded though. I”m not trying to preach or judge. I’m just saying…I do NOT get it. *sigh. My heart goes out to any woman that has ever thought the same things. SMH.